Although he does not yet say “I want mommy” there are times that my son definitely wants her over me. Of course there’s nothing wrong with him sometimes wanting the comfort of his mother more than the comfort of his father, so it does not bother me. But on the other hand, as the person who takes care of him all the time, it is a little bit of a bummer that he would not want to go to the comfort of my arms when something happens and he wants comfort.
I have said this before and I stand by it – there is a special bond that a child has with their mother, and it is a bond that will never be felt or understood by the father. There’s a little bit of a unique relationship that builds, and it makes sense when you think about it. The mother is there as literally the source of life and sustenance for the child from the beginning. And then along comes the father, and although this guy is interesting, he’s no match for the mother.
So, when those times come up when both me and my wife are around, it is almost without fail that the little guy will go to his mom if he wants to be hugged, held, or otherwise have closeness. My wife sometimes wants me to carry him during these times, as she gets tired, but this does not fly for him – he wants mom. I will say I have a “no carrying him around “policy when we are out in public – he either walks or goes in the stroller when he is with me – so maybe I’m not helping things. Either way, I hear it loud & clear: “I want mommy” is something I should simply get used to.